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In Remembrance of Her

 

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Lauren Taylor Williams

 

Brigitte Nicole once said, “One of the most courageous decisions you’ll ever make is to finally let go of what is hurting your heart and soul”. This may be sound advice for some; and in most cases we go our entire lives being told to let go of one thing or another. But in the case of my angel baby Lauren, I chose to hold on. Given everything that I was going through during her loss; the thought of her, the memory of her, the potential of her life was not something I could release from my mind or heart. Her brief presence in this world was not a mistake and not a footnote in my life. The foundation of Aloha Glamour is built on her memory and her spirit so holding on to her doesn’t hurt my heart or soul but in fact helps heal them. As I begin this blog it’s my hope that the stories I share with you will bring hope, not sadness and show that even through the greatest of tragedy a seed for something amazing can be planted in your life.

Alexis Williams

#thegirlintheskirt

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Facebook Memories: 3 Years ago

All I wanted was to hear you cry….too see your chest rise and fall from breathing. I live every single day without one of my children and it hurts. I wake up and go to bed broken hearted EVERY DAY. #motherslove #mothersday #missingbabyLaurenTaylor #myangel #silenttears

I made that post three years ago today. The deep destruction of grief was alive and rampant in my life and I thank God for keeping my mind. I thank God for giving me the power to fight daily and instilling in me the will to live. I am still grieving, I always will. But I just realized that having a bad day, like yesterday, is nothing in comparison to how I use to feel in a daily basis.

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Living My BEST life

Right now, she’s living her best life.

She’s focused on herself.

She’s falling in love with who she is.

She’s excited about where she is headed, and she’s excited about what is next.

She has so many goals, so many dreams, so much ambition, and she’s constantly finding new passions.

She’s learning to be spontaneous.

She’s learning to take risks.

And she’s constantly stepping outside of her comfort zone.

You see- right now, she’s just chasing what makes her happy–the things that feed her soul.

And to be honest with you- she could care less about what anyone else is doing.

She could care less about what anybody else thinks. Because right now, her life is filled with so much peace.

So much light.

So much color.

So much faith.

And so much hope…

She’s living her best life and there’s absolutely nothing, or no one that can get in the way of that! RS ๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ

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๐ŸŽ‚๐ŸŽ‰Hau’ oli la Hanau AG๐ŸŽ‚๐ŸŽ‰

Ok, I know what you’re thinking… Didn’t we just celebrate Aloha Glamour‘s birthday a few months ago? ๐Ÿ™„ Yes and No. We celebrated the legalization of Aloha Glamour. With that being said on this day, three years ago, I was given a vision to start a Hawaiian skirt line.

My friends and I celebrated my late daughter, Lauren Taylor Williams, first birthday in Hawaii on Bellow’s Beach.

We threw flower petals in the water, had a moment of silence, and ate good food.

By the way, I wouldn’t have been able to get through this day without my friends @_kdg89 and @likemommy_likedaughter .

Anyway, We ended the celebration with this photo.

And with the same breath in grieving my daughter’s death, we celebrated the life of my brand, which you know as, Aloha Glamour. ๐Ÿ˜ I want to personally thank my sister’s for being there for me ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜˜

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Live Your Life In Color

Owning your story is the bravest thing you will ever do!

This is the photo that started @alohaglamour.

I PCS’d two months after my daughter, Lauren Taylor, died and PCS’d to Biloxi, MS.

The 1st year after my loss I lived my life in black and white… Just going through the motions of adulting. Until I traveled back to Hawaii to celebrate her 1st birthday. This photo was taken on Lauren Taylor’s, first birthday at Bellows AirForce Base in Hawaii๐ŸŒบ.

Tell me what’s the first thing you see when you look at it?

COLOR!!!!

The Air Force teaches us a LOT of principles/ techniques, one of which is how to be resilient. How to bounce back when it seems as of the odds are against you…when you feel like you are surrounded by darkness.

I’ve heard it says that the greatest loss a parent can feel is the loss of a child. It doesn’t just change you, it demolishes you. That is true. The rest of your life is spent on another level and because of that I thank God for resiliency.

Here’s to living the rest of my life in color!!!

Will you join the movement?

https://www.alohaglamour.shop

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Throwback Thursday

December 6, 2017-

I remember when I told people in 2017 that I wanted to start a business selling Hawaiian Pa’u Skirts and they would look at me with a side eye. When I told them I wanted to name it Aloha Glamour, they laughed.

I didn’t sell my first skirt until I had been in business for about 2 months. I became discouraged.

Making a one skirt sell a month was monumental for me… It was my goal.

Although I was discouraged I continued to push… With a smile on my face.

I had a team who believed in me and my brand.

My first vendor show was with the @msnaturalhairexpo and I sold more than half of my inventory๐Ÿ˜. Talk about an aha moment! One skirt a month sale turned into 10-15 a month and I know that’s by the grace of God.

I thank everyone who has accompanied me on this journey.

I thank those who doubted me. I thank ALL of my Glamfriends who continue to invest and pour into our brand. @alohaglamourcouture is what it is because of you๐Ÿ˜ 2018 will only get better!!!! Are you ready? I am๐Ÿ˜‰

Wow, looking back on 2018 we grossed $17,000. So far this year we have double… Almost tripled those numbers๐Ÿ˜. I look forward to what 2019 has to offer us.

Are you ready? We are!!!

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For The Culture

Just as open as this window is, so should your wardrobe be. Never force yourself into one style. Explore. Experiment. Be Extra!

I overheard this kid from church whisper to his mom on Sunday, is it “African Day?” He asked because I was wearing a Maxi skirt (pictured below) from Aloha Glamour and ShanitaGerry ShanitaGerry had on her Palazzo Pants from Aloha Glamour as well.

I leaned in and assured him that fashion is what you make it and you can wear print and color outside of what others seem as the appropriate time… The “time” that I am referring to is Black History Month or for a “Wakanda Themed” Party.

I then questioned if we have become so numb to who we are that we are ashamed to wear colors or prints that represent our heritage year round?

Do you feel as if you are only comfortable with wearing prints during the month of February?

I must admit, I was a little skeptical of being different at first. It can be uncomfortable to have all eyes on you because of what you’re wearing, but it can also be freeing.

We are born to stand out and not just during Black History Month.

I AM black history month! I will not limit my cultural expression to one month out of the year because that’s when everyone else decides they want to embrace or flaunt their culture. I do this for the culture! I AM the culture. The results of the run-off elections in the state of Mississippi should make YOU want to represent your culture even more!

So I ask, are you ready to live your life in color or will you remain in the shadows?

Explore. Experiment. Be Extra!

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The Girl In The Skirt

On this day, exactly one year ago, I had an aha moment…

I realized that losing my daughter was bigger than the pain I felt everyday.

It was when I realized that I could create a platform that would empower women of all shapes and sizes… And look glamourous while doing it.

You see , initially, I started Aloha Glamour just to fill a void. I needed to do SOMETHING so I would not lose what I had left of my mind.

My daughter, Lauren Taylor, was born and died on November 6, 2015 while I was stationed in Hawaii. Therefore, I felt it was fitting to name my business Aloha Glamour to honor her as well as keep her memory alive.

Do not live your life just going through the motions of life. For a long time, I saw the world in black and white after I lost my daughter… And my clothes reflected that mood. Aloha Glamour changed that for me and I want it to do the same for you!!!

But it’s more than just skirts for me.

Aloha Glamour is THE lifestyle movement that promotes women to love themselves whole heartedly while living their life in color.

We are a community of women that empower others as well as assists them with finding their voice, turning their tragedy into a triumph, and helping them build from the inside out.

We want them to be able to feel confident and pretty, while keeping it cute and covered, one skirt at a time.

Aloha Glamour is THE MOVEMENT that is helping EVERY woman be great in their own way and we want them to create a story in each and every skirt they wear.

What’s the color of your story?

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Relive every moment

This time three years ago, I was sitting straight up in a hospital bed. I hadn’t slept in three days at this point. The Dr’s had prescribed almost every anxiety medication to calm my nerves and even given me something to “relax” but nothing worked.

Every year between November 5-10, I find myself reliving that hospital stay. I have waken up at an ungodly hour of 2 am every morning since November 5 and have been unsuccessful with falling back asleep.

Three more days…

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Learn to swim

“But I can’t swim” I said.

In which he replied, “I can and I will save you… If you let me.”

It has been a while since I have had a day like yesterday.

Where all I want to do is lay in bed and drown myself in my tears.

For a while I thought I had become numb to the pain of losing Lauren.

Reality proved otherwise on yesterday.

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Three Years Later

Three years ago ,today, was the day my whole world changed.

I had my own notion of grief, before this this day.

I thought it was a sad time that followed the death of a loved one.

And you’d have to push through.

But rather,

There is an absorption.

Adjustment.

Acceptance.

And grief is not something you complete, but rather endure.

Grief is not a task to finish, to just move on, but an element of yourself-an alteration of your being.

A new way of seeing things.

A new definition of self.

My baby would have been turning three on tomorrow๐Ÿ˜ข

Rest in heaven Lauren Taylor Williams

Love you always,

Mom